It’s true what they say. That you lose a little bit of yourself when you have kids.
Everything becomes for them, and it’s hard to find the time for you. We become so caught up in all the things that have to be done, and in taking care of our little loves, that we neglect ourselves. But it isn’t good for you, or for your kids to always be giving, and never give yourself any thought. You must find time for you. To relax, recharge, rest, think, breathe.
As I write this, I’m sitting in an empty house. My husband took the kids on a hike to pick blueberries. I’m feeling super grateful for the peace and quiet to sit down and write and do some things for myself. It got me thinking about how I make time for me, and the things I try to do on a regular basis to keep me recharged and ready to raise 3 year old twins, take care of a house, and run my blog.
Here are the things I try to do every week for myself to stay sane as a mother of 3 year old twins:
We have a family pass at our local YMCA, and even though the monthly fee seems expensive, it’s totally worth it. One of the reasons I love it is the free childcare. I can bring my kids and drop them off for up to 2 hours in a daycare-like room while I go exercise. I try to go at least 3 times a week for Zumba, yoga, or some other exercise class. Even though getting everyone out of the house is a hassle, I’m always glad I went!
go to church
I’ve been going to a local United Church of Christ for about a year now. They also have free childcare, so I bring the kids and they play upstairs with other toddlers and preschool age kids while I attend the service. I realize church isn’t for everyone, but I so enjoy the time to sit, think, and pray without any distractions. Our pastor is wonderful, and she always gives interesting and relevant sermons. I hadn’t been to church in a long time, but I was feeling like I wanted to, so I just went to a few different ones until I found one I liked. If you’re thinking about it, I encourage you to give it a try!
paint my nails
Ok, this one is purely superficial. I always feel better, more put together, when my nails are painted, don’t you? At least if my hair is a mess and I have no makeup on, my nails look nice! I don’t often go to a nail salon, maybe two or three times a year, mostly because of the cost. I just paint my fingernails and toenails at home, and I think they still look great!
read for pleasure
This one may not be for everyone either, but I was an English major in college, and a high school English teacher for 10 years. Books feed my soul. I usually get my reading time in when it’s bedtime for the kids. They both still like one of us to lie down with them while they fall asleep, so I usually read on my Kindle or the Kindle app on my phone while I lie in bed with my daughter or son after lights out. I also usually read before I go to bed myself. Lately I’ve been into the historical-mystery-thriller genre (like The Da Vinci Code). Right now I’m reading Atlantis by David Gibbons.
I try to get out at least once a week without kids to run errands. On top of whatever errands I’m doing (grocery shopping, etc.) I get a Starbucks fancy coffee, take my time in Target, browse around Michael’s or TJ Maxx. I usually pop into the Salvation Army too to see if they have anything good. It’s not glamorous, but it sure is nice to do it alone!
What do you do for yourself every week? Let me know in the comments!
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