When I was 9 weeks pregnant, I went in for a sonogram, and the doctor said I was having twins!
I was so, so shocked, but also immediately happy.
My husband is a twin, and has a very close relationship with his brother. He was so happy he cried!
Having twins certainly comes with its own set of challenges, but I can honestly say that having twins is amazing, and I’m so happy that I get to be a twin mama! Here are five things I love about having twins.
They play together
Now that my kids are toddlers and no longer babies (tears!), they play together, leaving more free time for mama. With one, I imagine there’s more pressure to entertain, but with two, they can entertain each other. Yay! Now, I don’t want you to think my kids are quietly playing and I’m relaxing in the hammock with a mojito (though that does sound fantastic). Right now, it’s more like 5 minutes of nicely playing together before double toddler meltdowns and mama having to break up the wrestling match. But, I can see how, as time goes by, they will learn to play nicely together for longer and longer time periods.
Built in friends
I can already see my kids’ understanding of ‘family’ forming, even at two years old. When my son introduced himself to a girl at the playground the other day, he said, “I’m B, and this is my mommy, and my daddy, and my E.” My mama heart melted. He saw himself as an extension of our family, and it was the sweetest thing. I see B and E forming a strong bond already, holding hands, comforting each other when they’re upset, sharing, explaining, helping. They are twins and best friends, and it’s so, so wonderful.
Get to shop both boy and girl stuff
You know how when you’re in, say, the girls section of the store, looking at all the cute clothes, and then an adorable little boys’ outfit from across the aisle catches your eye? With boy-girl twins, I’m not limited to one section of the store. I can shop girls and boys stuff to my heart’s desire. I get to buy the flower headband and the newsboy cap. Clothes, gear, diapers, you name it, we had one in blue and one in pink. There is just something super cute about boy-girl twins in almost matching outfits.
We each do half the work
This is one that I didn’t realize was a thing until recently, because it was just necessary for survival. My husband does half. All the time. With two kids and two parents, it just evolved this way. When the kids were infants, he held one baby and I held the other. He fed one baby and I fed the other. He changed one baby and I changed the other. I realize now what a blessing this is. I can see how if we had a single baby, I’d be the one to feed, change, console, etc. I’m grateful for this equitable split of parenting duties, and it works for us. Thanks, honey, for being such a great dad and husband!
This may sound a little weird, but I love that having twins is unique. We’re not like everyone else, and I don’t mind it one bit. Honestly, I feel a bit of pride when another parent says, “I don’t know how you did/do it with two.” Yeah. I am doing a good job. I do rock this parenting twins thing. And I love having twins.
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